Prepping for Parenthood

Almost a month since the last entry. Wow. Sorry about that. On some level I was too overwhelmed to write about meeting T., our surrogate. It went so incredibly well and fantastic that it was almost weird. In addition, I was getting us ready to go to Burning Man which is a major project in itself.

Tom and I went down to Portland on Saturday midday and spent the night at the Sheraton which allows dogs to stay over. We saw RuPaul at one of the local clubs that night (a bonus). Sunday morning we woke up, got coffee and headed out to meet T and her two kids. We met at a park a few miles from her home where we had the chance just to hang out and relax. T's two boys (9 and 11) were absolutely wonderful. Both of them won our hearts within the first hour. The boys and I walked in the creek while Tom and T took some time to get to know each other. After getting the dogs and ourselves sufficiently wet, we decided it was time for lunch. Fatty Patty's was it. This place was surreal. I'll leave it at that given that my propensity for rural Washington is extremely limited.

The whole afternoon was incredible. Dare I say somewhat magical. We waited until we said it was time to go to begin to discuss any details of surrogacy. The afternoon was spent just getting to know each other. Over the last 45 minutes of our visit we talked about logistics, values, desires, timing and whatnot. We were all, gratefully, on the same page. Needless to say, when it was time to leave we all agreed to move forward.

Tom and I feel so blessed to have found someone so genuine, so honest and so giving. T is smart, very attractive, and funny. We both have continually reminded each other how fortunate we are.

We are now moving towards the contract stage. So we've talked almost every week since our visit about the details and about life. We've also exchanged numerous emails about contract "stuff" since we met as we are truly moving forward. In an email from T the week of our 2nd anniversary since our wedding (our 8th year together) she closed her email with the following:

Hopefully on your third
anniversary, we will have
completed your family. I hope that
happens for you.

To be honest, I thought that I was going to burst out crying when I read that. Once again I feel so lucky, so fortunate that we found T. I know that she feels the same about us (she's told us). And so we begin.............