everyday is a little more exciting

Everything is moving right along. Our surrogacy contract was finished at the beginning of this week and T. received it yesterday only to shoot off an email to Tom and I how perfect it was and how excited she is to move forward. So, now it's off to the drugstore to buy the appropriate accoutrements, at least for our end of the deal. T. is taking care of the things that she needs to make this happen for her part (Thank God!!). She is such a fantastic person on so many levels.

Tom and I had a chat the other night about how we're no longer going to indulge people's negativity around our process. It is bizarre to me how people feel so comfortable asking and saying the oddest, most negative, fearful things. Genuine interest, concern, curiousity, excitement is certainly appreciated. Fear projections from acquaintences and from family members, not so good. The "aren't you afraid she is going to want to keep it" question. Um, like we haven't thought about that at all. Um, like we didn't just drop thousands of dollars on a lawyer to write up a contract. The "are you going to have her psychologically, genetically tested?" question. Why is it that we have to defend T.? Why is it that we have to defend this person who is willing to lend us her body, her life for 9 months. Why is it that we have to be put in a position to defend this person who is helping us to create our own family not because she is being paid (she's not) but because she can and she wants to do this, not just for someone but for us. I suppose that as a future therapist, I should be able to answer these questions. Actually, I know the answer I know that Tom and I are fortunate to have faith in our intuition, in ourselves, in each other in humanity and in T. to know that this is possible, to trust that this will work out exactly how it is supposed to. That is the best answer that I have and the one that suits me fine.

So, it begins. Till next time - Larry.